What To Expect
Sometimes, many of us expect little things while others expect big things. Even the littlest of expectation can set us up for a big disappointment. We strive for changes but many times we expect others to change for us and there is where disappointments come an make our lives difficult. Sometimes we expect from others to be who we want them to be, even to give us what we want (many cases, we can give it to ourselves) or to do for us what we desire to be given.
I have learn late in life that when we place expectations on things or other people is when we hurt the most. It is surely hard to go at it alone so we expect from others to makes us feel good. Wrong. We need to know that feelings are a huge door for hurt, disappointments and even tears.
I have learn late in life that when we place expectations on things or other people is when we hurt the most. It is surely hard to go at it alone so we expect from others to makes us feel good. Wrong. We need to know that feelings are a huge door for hurt, disappointments and even tears.
I have learned is that I can make myself happy and being content with all that I can give unto others.
I am not a big giver when it comes to financial or material things. I give as I can but I mainly give of my time and my heart. The main problem is that others might have not learned the same things I have or maybe at a lower scale. Leaving me therefore, drained and appall that no matter how much I give, people are just not thankful about any little given to them. Making me fell that I should be giving more and more constantly. They seem disappointed when I give out of love.
Sometimes, others forget that I too am a human being. That I have needs and especially the need to be able to replenish myself to be able to offer again to others. Once a therapist told me,
"You cannot give what you do not have. You have to be able to fill up the bag of goodies again in order to be able to give again."
The Bible tells me that I have been given so I can give and if I do not give, I will not be able to receive.
Also during these past days with the celebration of Christmas, If Santa were real, and he is not, he comes only once a year. He need to replenish throughout the year to be able to come back with a bag full of goods. Unfortunately, for many, including my children, I have never believed in Santa. It is ok for others if they want but my disappointment was so great that I decided to never lie to my children. That way they are not disappointed when I have to let them know the truth. Therefore, If I do not lie about a Santa, then they can never call me a liar. Lol! Funny that it was my way of thinking or at least that was my perception. I still do not celebrate Santa but I rejoice in the celebration of the day that Christ was born. The day that all humanity was given the greatest gift ever. Yet so many still fill up the malls and even with complaints of a hard economy, millions of people spent a lot for gift giving during holidays.
It is unbelieable how churches get so vastly full with the presence of people that only go on special occasions. This deeply makes me sad in a sense that we all should be paying tribute and rejoicing all the time. These are my brothers that I take to heart. Sadly, once or twice a year is not enough to honor Our Creator. It should be often if not constantly. But then again, this is my personal view. On the other hand, I am glad that they made the effort. Whether it was as a custom or to call attention to themselves or others projecting someone they might not be often.
Also during these past days with the celebration of Christmas, If Santa were real, and he is not, he comes only once a year. He need to replenish throughout the year to be able to come back with a bag full of goods. Unfortunately, for many, including my children, I have never believed in Santa. It is ok for others if they want but my disappointment was so great that I decided to never lie to my children. That way they are not disappointed when I have to let them know the truth. Therefore, If I do not lie about a Santa, then they can never call me a liar. Lol! Funny that it was my way of thinking or at least that was my perception. I still do not celebrate Santa but I rejoice in the celebration of the day that Christ was born. The day that all humanity was given the greatest gift ever. Yet so many still fill up the malls and even with complaints of a hard economy, millions of people spent a lot for gift giving during holidays.
It is unbelieable how churches get so vastly full with the presence of people that only go on special occasions. This deeply makes me sad in a sense that we all should be paying tribute and rejoicing all the time. These are my brothers that I take to heart. Sadly, once or twice a year is not enough to honor Our Creator. It should be often if not constantly. But then again, this is my personal view. On the other hand, I am glad that they made the effort. Whether it was as a custom or to call attention to themselves or others projecting someone they might not be often.
I guess, I too expect people to be what they should be and act how they should act.
